ok it is working now 
on both nodes
/etc/drbd-reactor.d/linstor_db.toml
[[promoter]]
id = "linstor_db"
[promoter.resources.linstor_db]
dependencies-as = "Requires"
start = [
"ocf:heartbeat:IPaddr2 service_ip cidr_netmask=24 ip=172.16.222.254",
"var-lib-linstor.mount",
"linstor-controller.service"
]
on-drbd-demote-failure = "reboot"
secondary-force = true
preferred-nodes = ["pve01", "pve02"]